How to Deal With Incoming Pain

How to Deal With Incoming Pain

Do you feel that all the doors of life are closed?

Not finding a way to move forward?

You feel like you are in the middle of an ocean of pain?

Celebrate that moment. It’s a good thing.

We all know, think and talk about leadership but often find it difficult to lead our actions.

Often we don’t act unless circumstances force us to.

Pain forces us to ACT!

Every pain comes with a purpose.

Reflect on the old saying,

“No pressure, no diamond!”

When pain comes to take you over, stay patient; stay calm; stay positive. Things will work out  … may not be quickly but eventually.

There are two ways to deal with painful situations:

1. Feel the pain
2. Act despite of pain

When you choose to just feel the pain you keep wondering, despite all this pain, why it’s not working out? You stop living and start thinking.

When you act despite of pain, you invent possibilities to make something better out of the pain. You continue living … flowing like a river and keep moving on.

Oprah said,

“Turn your wounds into wisdom.”

Profound thought. Something that makes you wiser should be enjoyed, not suffered, isn’t it?

Do not be afraid of your own reality and your feelings.

You are going to carry it anyways.

How you carry your pain, matters.

It’s a feeling.

Your feelings are part of you. Your own reality.

If you feel bad about it and try to hide it or suffer from it, you’re doing a real hard work to live a miserable life.

Instead, be tougher than incoming pain so pain thinks to go back and reinvent itself and in the process, you too, reinvent yourself.

..and you learn the art of turning your wounds into wisdom.

How to Deal With Information Overload

How to Deal With Information Overload

So many things are happening at this moment.

Someone is dying. Someone is taking birth. Someone is coming home after decades of travel. Someone is getting huge payhike by changing his job. Someone is investing time to create a business that his generations will be proud of.

People are doing this. People are doing that.

People used to do this. People used to do that.

Then came Facebook. And Twitter. And Google+ … all different kind of social media.


Information Overload.

Number of messages we get to hear in a typical day have been multiplied by hundreds if not thousands.

But, what does it mean to you?

It just means that you get lot of garbage your way.

Bigger Problem? You don’t know what information is the garbage.

We say “yes” to what seems exciting or what seems new and indirectly say “no” to the path we are traveling.

How to find out if something is garbage or not?

Get clear on what “drives” you. Get clear on your  goals that you must achieve. And get clear about how you are going to use incoming information to achieve your goals.

Now, there are three types of information:

  1. Information that advances towards achieving your goals
  2. Information that enables you to visualize, articulate, refine and challenge your goals
  3. All other information

Number three is garbage. Get rid of it.

Absorb what’s useful; reject the rest. ~ J.D. Meier

Some people crib about information overload while few, only a few, take what’s useful and reject the rest.

Make a wise choice.


Thinking Vs. Doing

Thinking Vs. Doing

“When you have to shoot, shoot, don’t talk.” ~ Tuco, The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Do what you should. Don’t talk about what you should be doing.

Results come to those who “act” while others are discovering the “right” ways to generate results.

You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.

You might have knowledge about what’s right but it doesn’t matter.

Knowledge is not power; Knowledge is potential power. Knowledge becomes power only when you act upon it.

Results come to those who act.

Happiness is a result. Joy is a result. Life lived without regret is also a result. Yes. Result. Of something you acted upon.

If you are like most, you would not have clearly written statement of what’s most important  to you. Even if you have written it, it might not be in “specifics.”

Do it now. Here’s how:

  1. Write down what’s most important to you. It will be your #1 priority. It will guide you about what’s right and what’s wrong when you act.
  2. Get specific. (I want to have lots of money this year in my bank account is not specific. I want to have $50,000 in my CitiBank Checking Account by 30th September 2014 is.)
  3. Write down specific negative results you might get if you don’t act upon what’s most important to you.
  4. Write down the next action you need to take to advance yourself towards what’s most important to you.

Did you realize that you just now defined your future?

While you have power to “define” your future, you do have power to turn it into the reality. Realize that.

Cultivate the courage to create / shape / build or decorate your life around your #1 priority.

But what if I fail?

You will.

I bet.

Would you be needing more time to “analyze” your “unique” situation so you don’t fail?


You will fail even though you have throughly analyzed your unique situation. Don’t worry much. Ensure that your basic needs are taken care of but that’s about it. Ask the critical question: Will my life end if this project fails?

No? Go ahead and DO the Work!

This has happened to me and I’m sure this would have happened to you as well: The self-talk that says that let me wait till I’m ready; let me wait till {blah blah blah} …

This doesn’t work. It is very much likely that you’ll wait for rest of your life to begin that project. Begin when you’re 50% ready and surprise yourself with the results!