Do you know what is true love?
Do you think you have ever truly loved someone?
Have you ever felt that you want your beloved to do the things only what you ask him or her?
Have you ever expected that there should not be any secret that your beloved should be keeping from you?
You constantly feel the need to know anything and everything that he or she is going through?
You often feel that your beloved is doing wrong things if your beloved is doing something that you don’t think he or she should be doing?
Then let me tell you what you are practicing – maybe unknowingly – is imitated love, not true love.
The reason is simple – True love gives freedom. Love becomes true only when it does not hinder the privacy of the other person and set him or her free.
“If there is attachment in love, then love will be a prison. If love is without attachment then love itself is the divine.” ~ Osho
True love respects its independence and its privacy.
However, it is not seen common in the society, isn’t it?
The whole efforts lovers put are that everything should be shared, known and there should be no such thing as privacy. They are afraid of other person’s individuality.
They treat their love as an avenue to extinguish the other person’s independence.
They expect that other person shares his or her bank account details, mobile address book, email passwords, participant content of three days resident training program that he or she attended or price of the wrist watch they gifted to their childhood friend…everything.
They are scared of other person’s individuality.
And still they hope that by extinguishing each other their life will become serene and worth living like .
It simply becomes more and more woeful.
I would encourage you to get clear on this – Real love is not a permanent thing…similar to a real life. You have been given wrong concepts that true love is eternal and will stay forever.
True love is like a garden. It does not remain forever. It has to die one day. Anything true is a constant change, so is true love.
Love happens to you. It is not because of any efforts on your part but it comes as a gift. You cannot request, persuade or compel someone to love you…it is very similar to the fact that you cannot request, persuade or compel the Sun to rise. Same is the case with gardens.
It is also certain that anything that is born will die. Sun will set. Gardens will be whitened. Love will be gone. It’s how nature works.
One garden whitens; another garden comes your way.
Different gardens will come to you forever but if you stick to one garden, soon you will find yourself with a dead garden.
And, that’s what is the reality; people stick on a dead garden that once was alive, now it is only a history.
So, if you want to love truly then detach from it. Give freedom. Respect other person’s privacy. Remember, every living being has their own life which may be outside of you. That’s how it is. Other person is not your slave. The other person is independent…a living being.
This will not overrule the possibility that love might fade one day…if it is real then it will be…one day…but certainly when you choose to give freedom in your love, it will make your and other person – both’s life worth living like.
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